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Showing posts with label godchicks. Show all posts
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Thursday, July 14, 2016

LA & a big birthday!

Oh hey there 2 weeks later! Delayed again...

I've been travelling so much (great problem to have, I know) that I have not had time to sit down, rest, and catch up. I've been catching up on things around the house and at work.

But now, I can share my Los Angeles/Orange Country trip. I have been so excited about this trip for several reasons. The reason I went out is to attend the annual Christian women's conference. I've been going since my first one in 2006. It's like an annual feast of soul food that sustains me for the year to come. The speakers are always dynamic and are pretty internationally known which adds a fun dynamic. This year, Beth Moore was there. I've watched her studies for years so I was not going to pass up the chance to see her in person with some of my closest friends. The conference was called GodChicks but is now called She Rises. The name comes from Proverbs 31:15, "She rises while it is yet night." I love this. All of the messages are about rising up in adversity (night). It seemed so fitting this year with the night that has fallen all around us. Some of my closest gal pals with whom I grew close at NewSong were there. I can't even describe how good it was to be with people who know me, and I mean really know me. I so long to be known in St. Louis but you know that takes time to develop. I had finally found it in Orange County after years of searching and building a foundation, and it was the hardest thing to leave. We had a blast! What better way to spend a birthday if I'm not going to be home with my husband? It was a gift. I had already cried every morning the week leading up to the conference. Tears came from excitement to see them again and from the loneliness that creeps us from time to time.

I worked half a day on Friday and then headed to the airport. I had a burrata salad and glass of wine while waiting by the gate at Vino Volo (LOVE their burrata salad). I always wanted a job requiring travel but I changed my mind after May-July travelling.


I arrived in LA at 3:30 and my friend April (who had just flown in from Florida for the conference) picked me up. I arrived at LAX and walked into what felt like ants scattering everywhere! I have gotten so used to the sparse spacious St. Louis airport. I had also forgotten about LA traffic (repressed memories)....we took side streets from the airport to the airbnb and it took 1.5 hours. =/ However, we were welcomed by California Love on the radio.





We arrived just in time to meet the host, throw our things in the room, change and walk down to the Kodak Theater (where they have the Academy awards). The doors opened at 6 and the conference started at 7. My friend Mee Hee was already there and it was almost more than I could stand to see her again WITH her pregnant belly!


It's really cool being in the Kodak theater for this
 
 
 

Beth Moore spoke that night and it was just amazing.
She is such a tiny powerhouse!

By the end of the night, I was exhausted from the travel, the goodness of the night and seeing friends. We walked back and crashed. Well, we might have made a quick stop at Mel's Drive In along the way. A girl has to eat right? No, the food's not great but when you are hungry....it's delicious.  



We woke up Saturday and hit the coffee shop on the corner. We were lucky to be right by a great café, Rise and Grind. We got coffee, brekkie and headed down to the conference. I love walking Hollywood Boulevard early in the morning before the traffic and tourists fill up the street. Louie Giglio spoke and it was fantastic.


Louie Giglio

At lunch, we walked over to an Italian place at Hollywood & Highland. It meant the world to sit with these favorite ladies and chat and catch up. Amy bought a bottle of wine so that they could all give a toast for my birthday. It's those moments around the table that are the true gifts.



After the afternoon session, we ended around 7 and went our separate ways. April and I went to dinner on the way home at Smoke's Poutinerie. I tried the Philly cheesesteak. We were so exhausted after so we soaked up the air conditioner in the apartment and went to bed.

 
 
 
Philly Cheesesteak poutine



Sunday already?! MY ACTUAL BIRTHDAY! We woke up early to walk around and take some photos of Hollywood Boulevard, my old stomping ground. I remember walking these streets weekly, marveling how a small town Mississippi girl made it there. We walked and had coffees before heading back to shower and check out. April dropped me off in Orange County.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 


I had so many gifts that day spending time with FRAMILY. Friends came over and spent hours with me. We had Hawaiian food, bubbly and chocolate cake. It was golden.






 

 I did get some hysterical "granny" gifts
 



That night, we headed over to the beach to see the newest addition, The Strand. We stopped by In-n-Out on the way home so I could get my fix.

 


Monday, I woke up and went to Cornerstone, my previous agency. This place was like life and professional boot camp for me. I learned so much and met my dearest friends there. I saw so many faces that I've missed for so long. It just felt good "being home."

The rest of the day was spent running around getting lunch at my fave restaurant, Shik Do Rak, and getting items I needed to bring back (also, an extra bag b/c I underestimated the return load).
 


This was a heaping amount of love and comfort to my soul. Just seeing old friendships, family, familiar places was like rubbing balm on a wound cut by loneliness. We enjoy St. Louis and being near family, but I won't lie, it's lonely. I haven't felt like this in years. This LA weekend was enough to bandage me up to trudge onward!

Cheers to a new decade!

Danielle

Tuesday, July 28, 2015

Hey, hey! Time for an update!

Well, hello there! It has been a while, hasn’t it?

We’ve both been busy settling in to “the Lou” and finding our rhythms…..I thought an update was long overdue!

I’ve so missed this blog. I do not want to get back to the “single, party of 1” lonelier days but man did I have some serious time to think, think, think, and write, write, write. It was good for the soul. That’s one soul-care activity I desperately need to find time for again. We absolutely have to find time to lead ourselves and care for what we need to thrive. Right? Right!

As for me, I’ve been getting busier at Easter Seals Midwest. It has been a nice slow start building a case load and learning the ropes. I’ve done several evaluations and starting to provide some therapy. I’ve made several mistakes. Why do we initially go to “Maybe I’m not good enough” or “people are going to think poorly of me” when we make a simple expected mistake. I’m learning through this learning curve to be gentle and to extend grace inward. Starting over is hard. I’m so used to being “a big fish in a little pond” in terms of knowing things about work and having all the answers to feeling like a “drowning minnow” sometimes. I’m reminding myself to really feel this process and to appreciate the experience. Don’t get me wrong- I love the placement. I left a great group of co-workers back in California, but I was also welcomed in by a great group of co-workers. I’m appreciative every day of the professionalism, friendliness and knowledge of my fellow BCBAs. The rest of the staff is great too and truly care for the success of the clients. Another new part of this process for me is evaluating older clients (hence the steep learning curve). I’m assessing two clients now – both of them are in their late 20s.

As for Luba, he started a new job on July 1!! WOOT! It couldn’t be more perfect for him. He is working at the International Institute. It’s an agency that assists immigrants and refugees. It especially warms my heart as I had the chance to experience what this country offers refugees back in 2011 when I served CreateCommon Good in Boise, Idaho. So far, so good – he loves it. I’m so happy that he has been able to find a non-profit and one where he can connect uniquely with the ones served by it. We had learned about this organization by two different people in the same weekend (they didn’t know each other) so he hopped on to the website and found that they were hiring. 

As for us, we have been able to celebrate 3 birthdays so far! Finally, in one city! My birthday was in June and my sister and Luba celebrated July birthdays within a couple days of one another.  Two things: 1) you can tell who the photographer in the family is, and 2) I love cakes for birthdays. I did pick out a cannoli (with an appropriate candle) for myself but I love cakes for others. I believe everyone should have a birthday cake (or pie or whatever) for a birthday, with cheesy writing!







We have had two visitors since we moved. Jody visited us in May and the Diaz (April) family stopped in for a night during their move to Indiana. 


In June, I went back to LA for the GodChicks Conference. I go every year and its the single biggest event that feeds my soul. I take home so many nuggets of wisdom that I go back to throughout the year and years beyond. This year, I saw Joyce Meyer, Christine Caine, Holly Wagner, and Rich & DawnChere Wilkerson. I've already bought my ticket for 2016 - along with fave girlfriends. It was so great to reunite with friends- ones that went to the conference with me are my prayer posse. After the conference that Saturday night, I was able to meet up with my closest girlfriends for dinner.


 Joyce Meyer - going strong in her 70s!

 Can you believe I had written this in my journal one year earlier, at the same conference - this is the message I kept hearing all weekend whispered to me....it was true! 


 DawnChere Wilkerson

 Rich Wilkerson - I forgive you for befriending Kanye West
one of the best messages I have ever heard

 lunch with some of the strongest & bravest women I know

 Christine Caine

The conference was at the Dolby....the DOLBY! The Academy Awards are held at the Dolby Theater in the heart of Hollywood. No gold idols on this stage this weekend!

Socially, we are making some connections. Luba has met some South Africans and we’ve had a couple of dinners/lunches and plan to see them again. It’s nice to connect with South Africans for him and I get to live vicariously. Hearing them speak in Afrikaans takes me back to days in South Africa. They are the friendliest of people. 

A braai, in America!


We’ve been to 2 Cardinals games already. It’s so fun here! The ins & outs are so easy and it’s like a whole community there around the ballpark. There is not “right in for the game and right out after” like I’m used to. I’m learning about this whole “Cardinal Nation” business. And its serious business too. We went to games coincidentally that were against California teams – the Dodgers and the Padres.



I started a book club on meetup.com so that I could meet some gals that like to read and come from a variety of backgrounds. I had great luck in CA with meeting friends that way. I’ve met some really cool women so far. One of them had also gone through the same visa process as me so we hit it off immediately. What a strong connection we make through hardship, right? You cling to those who “get it.”

I'm looking for a new ENT so that I can get a check up this year. I had my thyroid checked as a routine ultrasound since I have 3 nodules living there...no big deal for now, but we will watch them. (yes, this is separate from my "neck testicle" I had removed) I met with the doctor for the results. None were found. What? Where in the hell are they? Oh well, still nothing to worry about. But, sitting across from this computer/desk is an all too familiar scene. 

It took me back to 2013, the beginning of my journey with the tumor I had removed. Each glance reminds me of life, of love, of tenacity, of faith, of healing. The list goes on. And to hear another physician say "You had that removed with NO damage whatsoever? No effects? It makes me giggle inside. It makes a warmth wash over me and I look above. I just bet God winked. No, I bet he got up off that throne and WOOPED or fist pumped (or some move we haven't learned yet but will be popular in a few years because he knows everything!)! A spiritual bond grew during that season that is indescribable. I need those moments because I forget sometimes that it even happened - what a recovery! I don't take one single moment for granted though as I'm able to continue on working and use my voice. 

I’m also unveiling a new project soon – a business. I’ll save the details for another post but it’s something I’ve always dreamed of but never thought I was ready for. So after some thinking, I figured WHY NOT! For now, I can dip my toes in the water to see how it goes and it gives me the chance to take care of myself (providing speech, extra cash) and see where this goes. I’ll never know if I don’t try, right? If I don’t believe in me, then no one will.  To be continued but here's a look at a business owner!



That’s about it for us for now. Keep in touch - we miss you!

Love,

Danielle (& Luba)