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Friday, July 22, 2016

Tips for First Responders responding to autism

As many of you are aware, there was a recent incident with police in which a caretaker of a man with autism was shot. News stories now state that the officer was attempting to shoot the man with autism but instead hit the caretaker. I've feared this would happen (and posted a previous blog on it). We prepare our clients with autism as best we can to prevent incidents. For example, some clients might be learning how to shop, and because they may attempt to take items without paying, we have a plan in mind in case police are called for an incident of "stealing." For those that can be aggressive in the community, we are prepared for police to be called. Many of our clients are young men who do not stand out in a crowd upon sight. There is no physical deformity or abnormality to clue a bystander in that there is a disability. This weighs heavily on our minds at all times as we identify issues and teach living skills or adaptive behaviors as quickly and well as we can, but sometimes levels of impairment and time are stacked against us. We all fear exactly what happened this week. 

I have been enraged, distraught, disgusted, sad - almost every emotion from one end of an emotional spectrum to the other. I do not know all the details of this particular case, and it does not matter at this moment. This clip provides more evidence above anything that First Responders need to be trained on dealing with individuals with autism. We change so many policies in response to epidemics such as zika or ebola to keep us safe, but we have not done enough to respond to the largest developmental disorder that affects children. That number is growing. If we do not educate in addition to advocate, we are part of the problem withholding our solutions

As more children with autism now grow up and become adults, there will be an increasing number that officers face in routine situations. We, as mental health professionals, really need to collaborate with each other to help our First Responders. I know I can speak for the vast majority of police officers when I say that they are motivated to do well in their chosen career and truly desire to help their communities and keep all people safe - why else would they choose this? As professionals, we need to help them keep our clients and themselves safe by sharing the knowledge that we have. 

With autism being a spectrum disorder, no two individuals are alike. However, for the sake of being brief and providing a few tips for law enforcement, I'm going to generalize my experience. Most individuals who are not independent will have support staff available to assist officers with information on how to talk to and elicit information from individuals. We've somehow assigned certain behaviors such as rocking, flailing arms, speaking in a certain tone and maybe giving information from rote memory to autism. This representation is very limited and does not create not an accurate picture of an individual with a spectrum disorder. 

For the sake of brevity and time, these are the top 10 points that stick out most when I think of what I would tell officers if they asked me for the most important things to consider:
  1. Most individuals on the spectrum have a language disorder or are very "concrete" in their use of language. When on a routine traffic stop, you won't have a "physical" clue that the person has a disability. He or she looks like everyone else but you may not realize there are differences until you start talking (and it may not become obvious). Know that indirect questions may not yield information. Use concise direct commands to get information. Be very literal. Example: instead of saying "Do you have your license?" or "Can I see your license?" tell them what you need. Use "I need to see your license" or "Give me your license/insurance please."  Instead of "why don't we step out of the car?" say "Please get out of the car." Questions such as "where are we going in such a hurry today?" could be rephrased to a comment such as "you were speeding" or even omitted. 
  2. Perspective taking may be impaired. The individual may reach into his pocket, down in the door compartment or in the glove box to obtain what you asked for (insurance, license). Perspective taking impairments may affect decisions, especially immediate decision-making.  For example, a young man may not tell you their intent when reaching into the glove box to get the requested information. In his mind, he is simply following your directions to get the information. He may be unable to consider your perspective that he could be reaching for a weapon. Those of us who are neurotypical know to let you know what we will be doing so that you know and feel safe.
  3. Avoid a sensory overload. If you are called to a scene involving a person with autism, turn off your siren. Some have sensitivities and are hypersensitive to the sound of the siren may make a bad situation worse or elicit behaviors or "shutdown" as it gets closer. Approach with lights but no siren if possible. The less commotion, the better. Use a calm neutral voice to prevent further fear or anxiety and escalation of behaviors. Deliberate breathing and slow movements can help. 
  4. Sometimes individuals with autism have a personal item with them (toy truck, stuffed animal, etc.). Let them keep it. When you know that it is a safe item, allow them to hold it. It can be a comfort item that provides calming, and in return prevents aggressive or other unwanted behaviors. Do not take it to hold it - even if you say "I'll give it right back," chances are that may not be processed once that removal has occurred.
  5. Speak to caretakers that are present. Behaviors can be unexpected in a novel situation and the individual may be fearful. However, caretakers (behavior therapists, parents, other mental health professionals) typically know triggers and how to respond. They follow a detailed behavior plan daily which requires knowledge of triggers for behaviors, communication abilities, behaviors to be expected (aggression to others or self) and calming strategies that work. They can usually predict with certainty what will happen next as well as "what will happen if you do_______."  Know that caretakers often do not have scrubs. Because of HIPAA and other factors like maintaining privacy and dignity, we do not wear clothes with logos to identify our relationship. Would you want your marriage counselor to sit at the table with you and your spouse with a badge labeled "marriage counselor?" I never have on identifying information but can provide it in an emergency. 
  6. Many rely on body language to bridge what they do not understand with spoken language. If you ask questions that are not understood, individuals may watch your face and gestures, and agree or disagree based on your actions rather than their understanding and ability to account events. Be mindful of how questions are asked and remain neutral in your facial expression and body language. You may have to rephrase questions for understanding or to see if you get the same answers. Some may answer with parts of the question they hear which makes it appear as if they are answering when in fact they are not processing the information. Individuals often know that you want an answer and they want to provide one. Again, they may not be able to process the ramifications of incorrect answers. The primary goal for them may be to escape the situation by saying what you want to hear. Autism aside, we know that so many in prison have language impairments and some land there due to inability to process information like Miranda rights and questions in interrogation. 
  7. Get to know your community (and families can do this on their ends). It's helpful when you know you are being called to a home of an individual with autism before you get there. You are better prepared. In many cases,  neighbors call the police when they see a meltdown (or adult tantrum) on the lawn and see the person being directed back inside or escorted, when an adult elopes down the street and see staff coaxing them into safety, or some call authorities when they hear extended periods of screaming in the house. We do not want to deter people from alerting authorities or asking for assistance in situations that could be an emergency.  You, as an officer who is familiar with this client or family, may then have additional information which affects how you respond upon arrival when you receive this call.  
  8. Individuals may have that flight response in scary situations. He or she may become scared and just run - run to somewhere safe. 
  9. Be aware of your touch. Some individuals do not like to be touched. When you know you need to touch, let them know or ask for permission. You may simply say, "I need to touch your arm now" before just putting your hand on. Touching may scare the individual resulting in unexpected and/or unwanted behaviors (e.g., pushing person away, running, hitting, screaming, sudden movements, etc.). 
  10. When no one is in danger (no weapons, not in the way of traffic, etc.), allow the individual to de-escalate. During this phase, avoid questions. You probably won't get accurate answers anyway, if any responses, and you may further escalate creating a crisis (if the individual is not already in crisis mode). Once calm, you can talk about the issue as much as possible. Know that you may never get an answer to "why" as the behavior may have been the only communication the individual has. 
I encourage First Responders to seek training. Professionals can provide you with information and help you modify your language, create visuals for those that may need extra help understanding language and expectations, and troubleshoot scenarios with you. 

We as mental health professionals have chosen an often difficult but rewarding profession and are dedicated to keeping our clients safe. We know that police officers have done the same. We can combine our areas of expertise to mutually create and maintain the safest community possible. 

If you are in the St. Louis area and would like more training, please contact me for resources.

Danielle 

Friday, July 15, 2016

Chicago!

Luba & I decided to hit Chicago as a "big" trip for my birthday over the 4th of July weekend. Luba has never been and I have only been once. We are so lucky to be able to hop in the car and drive to so many great cities in under 6 hours! My friend, Jody, also came along for the trip.

Luba and I got up early on Saturday morning and headed out the door by 6! Jody would be arriving in Chicago later in the afternoon so I wanted to hit Portillo's before we checked in and picked her up. She's a vegetarian so I spared her this restaurant stop. I knew Luba would love it, and it was my first time too.

We used Roadside America along the way but there were no interesting stops. Bummer, there wasn't much of anything on this stretch from STL - CHI.

Hello Chicago!


We arrived around noon for Portillo's. We were a little overwhelmed walking in because there were a couple lines and a whole lot of people waiting. I was ready to order, as I had texted a friend prior to coming to see what she and her husband order (foodies, Chicago native). We had the Italian beef dipped with sweet and hot peppers and a Chicago dog + 2 ice cold beers! I could have been fine without the hot dog but we both loved the Italian beef sandwich.

 
 
 
 

After eating, we headed to our Airbnb (apartment) to check in. Oops, we arrived early as check in was 3:00 so we walked around the neighborhood (West Town) until it was time to leave to pick up Jody. We found this gem, The Big State, and had a potato taco on homemade tortillas. I'm definitely going back there on our next trip to Chicago!

 the outside of our airbnb
potato taco at The Big State
 
We decided to leave a bit early to stop by the grocery for fruit and snacks. We picked Jody up and headed back to the apartment.

Look how awesome our 2-bedroom apartment was!

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
and this mug? suggestive for an early morning coffee?
 
Well, since we were on vacation...time to eat  AGAIN!

Here begins my Uber obsession but I'm afraid it's Chicago Uber only. I've held out with using this due to a few stories of scary rides that overshadowed all the good ones. When we called Uber, one would be downstairs almost by the time we walked down the stairs. They were everywhere and we never waited more than 5 minutes. We had a few sketchy drivers/cars but all the rest were great!

We started the night off at Lou Malnati's. I thought Luba would love the pizza here (and he did). We then headed to RM Champagne Salon. It was closed for a private event so we opted to sit on the patio at Expat. We people watched for a while over bubbly. They had fun champagne drinks. When RM opened, we headed in and took a seat at the bar. We had some bubbly there and the bartender was nice enough to top us off with a little extra at the end of the night. Walking to the corner to call an Uber led us straight to a donut food truck!

 
 boozy sno cone for Luba, bubbly for me, popsicle for Jody
 
 


We woke up early Sunday and Luba and I headed over to Stan's Donuts. I love the quiet of morning when only a few are out and about. It was a cool quiet morning. We got 6 donuts so that we could split them all at home. I dropped in next door to La Colombe to grab a latte. We got home and cut all of the donuts into 3s and had our own donut tasting room. The favorite was the nutella stuffed. I still think of this donut. We got ready and headed out the door for our 11:00 food tour.

 
 
 La Colombe
 
 our stinky shortcut back to the car
 


We met the tour at Walgreens. Of course, I had to run in to find the restroom. I was amazed when I walked in to this converted bank building. This Walgreens was like a department store. There were 3 levels and it was "fancy as all get out." There was even a fro-yo machine. Downstairs, I saw this vault after coming out of the restroom so I walked over and found their "vitamin vault." They use the original vault to hold the vitamins. So cool!

 


We went on the food tour in Wicker Park. I love food tours because you get to sample the local fare and find out more about the history and architecture of the city. I always end up meeting really nice people on the tour as well. Everyone loves food! We made stops at Pork & Mindy (pork slider), Chop Shop (meatballs), Harold's Chicken (chicken wings), Al's Beef (Italian beef), and Alliance Bakery (macaron). We also stopped by a few houses to hear the history along the way.

 
 
 
 fun menu!
 
 Jones & Cane right there on the soda machine!
I love the pairing menu on top - pairing soda with menu items
 
 
 

 
 
 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 supposedly Obama's favorite fried chicken
 
 
 
 
 
 

 
the whole food tour group
 

We wasted some time at a bar to watch the soccer match. We also had the chance to meet up with Sammy and his fiancé Megan. Luba was close to Sammy and his family in South Africa, when they were living there doing missions. Sammy now lives in the Chicago area.
 

After spending some time walking around and getting Stan's Donuts AGAIN, we headed back to quickly change to head to dinner. I was unable to make a reservation at Girl and the Goat (GATG), but I have always wanted to eat there. So, we decided to give it a shot. We had a back-up reservation at 7:30 so we got to GATG at 6. It was already packed! We gave our names and waited the 1.5 hours for a table. Since it would work out to be the same time we had planned to eat, we canceled the other reservation and waited nearby and had a glass of wine. It was so worth the wait. I am still thinking of every single thing I ate there. Yes, you can actually get goat there, but we didn't. I've tried it before and it's not my favorite. We ordered a little of everything. Our favorite was the pan roasted halibut.
 


Uber-ing

 
 
 
 
 
 shishito peppers
 
 scallops
pan roasted halibut
 salmon
 
"all the leches" cake complimentary from our server

We were so full and happy. We went home and went straight to bed.

Luba and I woke up early on Monday and decided to hit another recommended place for breakfast, Wild Berry. We had been told there's always a wait so we figured the earlier the better. We arrived by 7:30am and there was a line. We waited around 20 minutes. Indeed, it was good! We had the berries & cream pancakes and a Mexican skillet. Next time, red velvet waffles are on my list! I was a bit annoyed at the table next to us because one of the middle age White guys kept staring at us. I didn't say anything but then Luba asked me about it because he noticed too. I was annoyed by their ignorance first and then secondly annoyed that they ordered scrambled eggs, bacon and white bread toast at a place like Wild Berry. Tsk Tsk Tsk.....Save that spot in line and go to Denny's!

 
 
 
I didn't realize that Wild Berry is right by Millenium Park so that gave me a chance to walk Luba over to see the "Bean." No first trip is the same without it. 
 
 
 

 
 
 

 
 
 
 


We headed back to pack up and check out. I donned my 4th of July clothes and we headed out. We had some time to kill before dropping Jody off at the airport. We went to the Gold Coast area and walked and shopped. We passed a homeless guy sleeping on a window sill by our car so Luba left him some fruit and bottled water from our grocery store stash. We hit the Judy Maxwell home store where I found ALL the cutest things in the world and only bought one - the scrabble tile with M. We also stopped by Old Olive Oil and got a few bottles. I had visited this place on a previous food tour of this neighborhood and fell in love with it. Staff are always helpful in helping you find the right combo of oil & vinegar. There are tasting cups so you can taste whatever you want! We had lunch at Happy Camper, a cute restaurant with an airstream trailer inside, camping décor and tire swings at the bar. The food was good too!

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

We headed home with only 1 Roadside America stop at the Pink Elephant Antique Mall. It was just randomness. The mall was closed but the diner was open. I would recommend just looking around and being on your way.


 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 


Overall, fabulous first road trip to Chicago!

Until next time,

Danielle